Thoughts 2017-05-25T14:15:26+00:00

The Intersection of Faith, Leadership, and Life.

Quick and Slow and Slow

Listening, speaking, and anger. Lack of listening is a common reason for relationship spats. Speaking when you shouldn’t, or with the wrong tone or timing, can get you into big trouble. And everyone knows that anger can be very destructive. You can imagine several ways these are related.  Jesus’ half-brother, James, wrote about this very topic in an extremely practical letter to the first century church. In the Bible, James 1:19-20 says: My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should [...]

Means to an End?

Can you be a means to an end when the end isn’t you? Are you OK or even fulfilled when you are just a cog in the wheel or a gear in the machine? Said differently, is your purpose in life, stated or unstated, mainly about you? At the Leadercast 2017 conference, Andy Stanley challenged the audience to move beyond “me” and focus on being the means to an end that is much, much bigger than ourselves: “Am I willing [...]

Top 5 Posts

Many of you know that I write a monthly column for our neighborhood magazine, and the July 2017 issue marks its 5 year anniversary. To keep the theme of "5", I went back to reflect upon 40+ articles and pulled out some highlights of what I consider to be the most impactful ones. I hope that these have been helping you on your journey of Faith, Leadership, and Life so that you can have An Eternal Impact with those you [...]

How to Raise Great Kids

Michelle and I recently gave a talk about marriage and family at the Mothers of Preschoolers (MOPS) banquet. Afterwards, a dad came up to me and asked the secret to why we (so far) have been successful at raising great kids. I joked and said, “It’s all Michelle.” Reflecting on it, of course great moms are critical to developing great kids. But not every great mom results in great kids, and some great kids don’t have a great mom or [...]

If Your Butt Muscles Tighten Up . . .

Author and Pastor Craig Groeschel suggests an excellent diagnostic test: If your butt muscles tighten up when you hear the word “generosity”, you may have a scarcity mindset. Most Americans don’t feel rich, but we are. Plug in your income at and you’ll find that most are in the top 1% in the world. Even families at our poverty level are in the top 3% in the world. Think about it. Many people in other countries don’t have houses. [...]

When You Reach Your Limit . . .

Have you plateaued? Is your golf score stuck? Have you hit the ceiling in your business? Is your marriage on the dull side? You’ve tried the same things that used to work and enabled you to reach your current level, but now it’s not working anymore. Or have you thought about stretching yourself to try a new hobby but didn’t see how you possibly could learn the complex skills needed to succeed? When we hit a barrier, when we come [...]

Living Our Faith: How Will They Know?

In this series, we have explored several ways to live our faith in order to reflect at least a portion of the awesomeness of our God to a watching world. We have emphasized the importance of not just externally changing our behaviors, but learning to love God and having this love flow into our actions in an INSIDE-OUT manner. Until now, we have looked at ways to live our faith that others can observe, without much in the way of [...]

Living Our Faith: Outrageous Generosity

Stories of outrageous generosity move us. If you watched Extreme Makeover: Home Edition and saw people in need have their homes completely redone without charge (and shed a few tears), you know the importance and impact of giving. Similar things happened in the early church after they encountered the risen Christ. At the end of Acts chapter 2, we see that “They sold property and possessions to give to anyone who had need.” Nearly everyone would agree that a life [...]

Living Our Faith: It’s Not About Us

Mother Teresa captivated a watching world because of the way she served. She didn’t just casually talk about serving God; she lived her faith in a dramatic, yet humble fashion that made people stop and take notice. When we think of people “living their faith”, we expect it to include passionate service to others. It’s hard to imagine someone “all in” for God and not having that joy overflow in this way. Serving is important, but serving for unclear or [...]

Living Our Faith: What Surprises the World

During a Bible study on June 17, 2015 in Charleston, SC, nine people were murdered by Dylann Roof. Although it deeply affected the nation, something less publicized, but more powerful occurred during the court hearing two days later (article with video). Several of the families were allowed to speak to the gunman, and what they said surprised the world: “I forgive you”. How is it possible to forgive someone who, less than 48 hours prior, murdered their loved ones? Through [...]