Healthy marriages are incredibly important. The ripple effects of unhealthy relationships are broad and deep, adversely impacting husbands and wives, children, extended family, friends, and society as a whole. Fortunately, there are several actions we can take to repair, strengthen, and grow our marriages. My challenge to you is to discuss and incorporate these practices into your marriage.

Date regularly. If you ask couples with outstanding relationships for marriage tips, it won’t be long before the importance of regular dating comes up. We dated before we married. Why did we stop? There is something special about having time alone together without kids and other distractions. It’s a guaranteed time to put your relationship first. It doesn’t need to be expensive; an ice cream cone and a walk in the park can do wonders. Take turns planning and be creative. If you’re on a date and realize you can’t think of anything to talk about, don’t worry. Google “Conversation Starters” (there are also apps for that!) and you’ll find hundreds of topics. Additionally, many excellent dating articles are found at:

Learn each other’s Love Languages. If you haven’t heard of the Five Love Languages, pay close attention. Each person has a way he/she best feels love. Discover this and you can be laser-focused in your display of love (Men: Think “efficient”). Go to to watch the video and take the survey. You will find that you receive love best in one or more of five ways: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. Unfortunately, people tend to express love in the way they like to receive love, and spouses tend to have different primary love languages. So you’ll likely have to “learn a new language” in order to best show love to your spouse. For instance, my Love Language is Acts of Service and my wife’s Love Language is Quality Time. If I do an errand for her (an Act of Service) to express my love, it pales in comparison to a walk in the neighborhood together (Quality Time). If we understand and target our spouse’s Love Languages, it does wonders to strengthen our marriage.

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